EFFECTS OF DIVORCE ON CHILDREN

      In today’s society, divorce has become a normal thing in our lives. Married couples today are getting a divorce due to many different reasons, either because a spouse having an affair, a loss of romantic feelings, conflicts in the marriage, and other types of problems. Most divorces have children that are really young and due to their age they don’t have any idea on how to deal with the type of situation. Children are most affected, they will learn how they can live without their parents cares. This will give whether a positive or negative impacts.

     Although divorce is not a good thing, but sometime it can be a positive thing examples children or parents being happy with that condition. This will allowing them to be a mature person. Parents that being separated can be better for the kids because then they do not have to deal with the parents fighting. If they are put in better and stable environments it can affect them in positive ways. Sometimes it is also better for the child if they have been in the environment of abuse, such as parent, brother, sister, or themselves being abused.


     Divorce also can be a negative thing to a children. Children will losing their self-esteem, not being able to trust anyone, parent favoritism, or financial aid for college. Children seem to lose their self-esteem due to the lack of relationship that they have with a parent. With this being said they are more likely to suffer and have more problems than other kids with both parents. The kids also start blaming themselves for the cause of the divorce. For children who not knowing or understanding the real reason, the result ending with additional stress put on the child. This can lead to the child being uncomfortable with being honest about their feelings because of the bad outcome it can have. So, parents must try to fix their problem and make sure pay more attention to their children.

      Emotions are a big part of life especially when dealing with something so difficult such as divorce. Children seem to be insecure and afraid for what the future will bring them. This will give them a bad experience. If sadness feeling goes on for too long it can lead to much stress or depression to them. Emotions are things that every person has, no matter what it is but sometimes kids need to talk to someone so they can express how they really feel about things rather than hiding them. So, parents must think before make a decision to divorce.

      Before making the choice to divorce, the parents need to consider their children first as well as the long term effects it may have on everyone involved. Family counseling to understand and explain these effects should be something all families in a tough situation should consider. Divorce might be the easy way out for the parents but is an open door to tragedy inside the children’s psychological and social health. Hopefully, none of you have to go through something so difficult in your life whether it is your parents going through it or you and your spouse when you get older.